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March 27, 2015

'ngomong kasar' vs 'korupsi'

disclaimer: ini pemikiran pribadi saya, ngga ada sangkut pautnya sama profesi saya, ataupun pekerjaan saya. iya, lagi sedih aja karena wall facebook saya jadi banyak sindir-sindiran antar 2 kubu lagi. ELAH.

1 jari dan 2 jari jadi berkubu-kubu..
selamat natal dan non selamat natal juga bisa bikin berkubu-kubu..
boneka sama ngambekan jadi buat ledek-ledekan..
sekarang 'ngomong kasar' sama 'korupsi' juga jadi 'mending-mendingan'

seneng banget diadu-aduin?
pantes dulu strategi devide et impera sukses ya.. gampang banget diadu domba.. coba kalo yang sukses strategi ora et labora.. **ini artinya apa ya?**

kenapa bisa dibandingin sih? ngga apple to apple.. kota yang dipimpin, sifatnya ga sama.. 
Ya, buat gw sih 2-2nya salah.. yang ngomong kasar ya salah, karena itu ga sepatutnya dilakukan pemimpin. Yang korupsi ya salah, ya karena itu salah (sih).. 

tapi, sebagai anak psikologi, gw pernah belajar psikologi lintas budaya. salah satu yang gw pahami, kasar atau ngga kasar itu, persepsinya bisa dipengaruhi budaya.. beberapa suku bisa ngomong 'elu-gw' di rumah, ya dianggap biasa aja.. kalo di rumah gw sih *digoreng*.. 

mungkin ada beberapa budaya yang menganggap korupsi itu ga salah atau biasa aja.. mungkin ya, gw belum nemu literaturnya.. 

pamit ke perpus dulu ya.. mau cari literatur..


January 18, 2015


I'm not good at history and all of those mythology subject. I know it's one of God's name, mother earth or nature, or something like that. I always love the name, just because it sounds unique. 

Until this day.

Starts from today, Gaia means happiness to me. Good pasta, skycrapper, city lights, SUPER DUPER LOVELY TIRAMISU.

And you.

Thank you.


January 17, 2015

Meet the Goodwillers

Another working Saturday! Excited!

So today I met these Goodwillers (Yayasan Goodwill Scholarship Recipients) .  I've never heard about this Yayasan Goodwill, i know i was so bad back then. I just knew this Yayasan because my friend asked me to deliver Presentation Skills training for this Yayasan.

The idea of meeting new people, new talented people is always exciting for me. As a good facilitator, i tried to 'learn'  about this Yayasan. (Learn means 90% googling) No, i won't tell you here about the Yayasan Goodwill, you can google it if you want.  Hahahaha.

What i want to share is about whom I met. These Goodwillers are the Yayasan Goodwill Scholarship Recipients.  They are young, smart and talented students from Universitas Indonesia and Institut Pertanian Bogor. This session was delivered fully in English, this is how the Yayasan preparing them. I was impressed that they are actively engaged to the training. Some of them were shy and bit afraid because they had to use English. But some of them were brave to speak in English, even though they knew their English aren't perfect. Mine definitely far from perfect too. But i was so impressed. They willingness to learn somehow makea me believe that they will be a successful persons. Even though some of them really have to struggle just to pay the tuition fee.

So kids, if you have this chance to go to college, go and do your best.  Seriously. I've been there, and not giving my best. Kinda regret it. Do your best in college,  because at the other side of the class, there are your friends who needs to work just to pay the tuition fee. Who have to work on their Saturday and Sunday.  Who have to work their ass off just to get what you have when you were sleeping at night.

College time could be the time you can make a remarkable history. For your parents, or simply for your self. Stop wasting your time for nothing and do something. And no, being active in organization is not nothing, it IS something. So, Seize the day!

November 08, 2014

I was planning to sleep during the day. But then i know I'm stronger than this.

So here I am. Woke up so early. Put a good dress. And work. I am working on 8th November 2014. I'm working today, because you can't beat me.

Nothing special happens today. Just an ordinary day. 

October 13, 2014


Tentang mencari yang terbaik..
Kadang kita sibuk mencarinya..
Hingga kadang kita lupa..
Kita belum memberi yang terbaik..

Tentang mencari yang terbaik..
Kita tidak pernah ingat, bahwa langit tak ada ujungnya..
Hingga satu saat kita tersadar, apa yang pernah kita miliki,
Bukan lagi milik kita..

Tentang memilih yang terbaik..
Atau memilih untuk menjadi lebih baik..
Bersama-sama dengan ia yang cukup baik bagi kita..

September 27, 2014


So this is my goodbye notes. Thanks for being there the whole years. I've never know we were this tired of each other. Anyway, thank you for this wake up call. Thank God that i know it now, not later.   

I'm not for a coward nor quitter.

We know nothing about future. We know we can do out best and let Him do the rest. But if you just wanna go for something easier, for something granted. Go, just go and don't comeback. If you want something easy, just go. Because I'm not for a coward.

Try harder, because i'm worth every effort. Try harder, because you should've known that i will be there, working everything out with you. And if you wanna stop, just stop and leave. Because I'm not for quitter.

Life is not always getting what we want. It's also about every effort, about the process of getting what we want. About all the experiences an learnings.

If you want something easy, granted and 24/7 fun. You can't be here. I'm not for a coward nor quiter. 


April 13, 2014

Here Are The Top 37 Things Dying People Say They Regret. Learn From It Before It’s Too Late.

Happy belated birthday to me! Yeay!

Happy belated long weekend to me! Yeay!

Happy Happy Busy So That I didn't Write.. Nay!!

Karena sedang malas berbasa-basi, tapi ingin posting biar tetep gaul dan eksis *ga deng* *iya deng* *ga deng*. Maka gw akan posting mengenai..


"Here Are The Top 37 Things Dying People Say They Regret. Learn From It Before It’s Too Late."

These kinda websites are my 10 minutes escapes. I found this article, aaaanddd, let's recap what should I do before *uhuk* getting married older *uhuk* so i won't regret it!

1.) Not traveling when you had the chance. Traveling gets harder as you get older, as more people depend on your presence, day-to-day and it ends up becoming more expensive to bring more people with you.
==> well, I do travelling sih.. but yes, I cancel one big chance.. *sob*
        So, let's not do it again ya R!

2.) Not learning another language. You probably took years of another language in high school. You should put it to good use.
==> Hmm.. English is my another language, anw.. *in denial*

3.) Staying in a bad relationship. It may feel hard to get out of a bad relationship, but it’s not worse than staying in it and wasting everyone’s time.
==> pernah ga ya? pernah. nyesel? nyesel karena jadiannya sih ngga. nyesel karena sampe sekarang masih sering digangguin, IYA.

4.) Forgoing sunscreen. It may not seem like much, but sun damage adds up over the years, causing wrinkles and discoloration.
==> noted. *bawa sunscreen selalu*

5.) Missing the chance to see your favorite musicians. You never truly know when your favorite band might break up, so seize the day.
        Karena nonton video mereka konser di luar selalu bikin iri, maka gw nyesel, telat suka sama Bigbang.
        So, Gw ga akan melewatkan kesempatan nonton COLDPLAY dan BIGBANG. **SEKIAN**

6.) Being afraid to do things. Fear can paralyze us, but we can’t let it.
==> Alhamdulillah, selama ini rasanya gw bisa mengatasi ketakutan gw yang ga masuk di akal.

7.) Failing to make physical fitness a priority. As you get older you’ll realize how important it is to take care of your body.
==> IYA, IYA. Seminggu 3 olahraga lagi deh. Starts from, next.. month? Muahaha..

8.) Letting yourself be defined by gender roles. Define yourself, don’t let society do it.
==> Na'ah. I won't.

9.) Not quitting a terrible job. You may need to pay rent or provide for a family, but you can’t force yourself to be miserable every day.
==> I left the bad environment behind.

10.) Not trying harder in school. Grades are important, but what’s more important is learning how to apply yourself and be dedicated.
==> sudah terjadi. well at least, I finished my master degree gracefully.

11.) Not realizing how beautiful you are. There are many definitions of beauty and you shouldn’t think you’re unworthy of someone’s attention.
==> I'm not perfect, but that's fine for me. Paling ngga, gw cantik untuk beberapa orang kok.. *ketjup orang2 tertjinta*

12.) Being afraid to say “I love you.” Loving another person is a precious gift, even if that same love wasn’t returned.
==> HA..HA..

13.) Not listening to your parents’ advice. They have a lot more experience than you’ll want to give them credit for.
==> My parents rarely give me advises. We call it discussion.

14.) Spending your youth being self-absorbed. There is more to the world than just you and eventually you’ll realize that.
==> I didn't.

15.) Caring too much about what other people think. When you’re older, you’ll realize that the opinions of others don’t factor into your true happiness.
==> I didn't.

16.) Supporting the dreams of others over your own. Being nice is one thing, but sacrificing your happiness isn’t worth it.
==>  Hmmm...

17.) Not moving fast enough. Don’t hesitate to make decisions, you’ll end up regretting wasting time.
==> Noted. I'll move fast enough.

18.) Holding grudges, especially against those you love. Choose to let go of your pain, instead of dwelling on it.
==> against those I love? i won't.

19.) Not standing up for yourself. Just because others may disagree with you, it doesn’t mean you have to abandon your principals.
==> I won't abandon my principals. I'm not gonna argue with someone i know i don't need to argue with.

20.) Not volunteering enough. There are countless reasons to help other people, especially when they are needy.
==> enough volunteering, Alhamdulillah. Not closing the chance to do more.

21.) Neglecting your teeth. Flossing and brushing may seem annoying, but it’s much better to take care of your teeth while you’re young instead of losing them later.
==> I DID. Caffeine treats them bad.. :(

22.) Missing the chance to talk to your grandparents before they die. They hold a lot of knowledge and they will only be around for a little while.
==> didn't have the chance to make memory with my eyang uti (from father side) and mbah peget (from mother side).

23.) Working too much. You’re going to miss the good parts of life, or be too stressed to enjoy them, if you do.
==> This will be hard to explain, but, I love working. Seriously. My office is a great environment with crazy, great and awesome talents. Feels like playground with a little bit 'stress' sometimes. We need that little stress to keep us learning, struggling and developing, right? My weekend projects. Feels like paid holiday. Hahak..

24.) Not learning how to cook one good meal. It’ll add to your family and friend get togethers more than you can ever imagine.
==> I cook good meal, right honey?

25.) Not stopping to appreciate the moment. Quit texting or taking pictures and realize what you are doing when you are doing it.
==> Noted.

26.) Failing to finish what you start. Every day is an opportunity that shouldn’t be squandered.
==> Noted.

27.) Never mastering one awesome party trick. This seems silly, but just think of how many amazing memories you can create.

28.) Letting yourself be defined by cultural expectations. If your family or country thinks you should do something for a career, you’re not forced to. Never.
==> I'm so grateful for having a great & supportive family. And, Noted.

29.) Refusing to let friendships run their course. Sometimes people drift apart. Forcing that connection could do more damage than good.
==> Noted!

30.) Not playing with your children enough. Kids are joyful and innocent. You should be choosing to fill your life with this joy, not avoiding it.
==> NOTED, SIR!!

31.) Never taking a big risk (especially in love). Taking a bigger risk can pay off more than taking a smaller one.
==> HA!

32.) Not taking the time to develop contacts and network. It may seem like schmoozing, but it’ll help your career in the long run.
==> Noted, and I hope I'm not that late.

33.) Worrying too much. Worrying, especially about things that haven’t happened yet, is useless.
==> Noted.

34.) Getting caught up in needless drama. Drama can be addictive, but there is no point. Don’t get off on how bad your day is.
==> But I love drama. hahaha.. Noted. I have avoiding so much drama lately.. You drama 'ck', 'hhh', 'ck', 'hhh' lady.

35.) Not spending enough time with loved ones. We are all on this earth for a limited amount of time, don’t take that for granted.
==> NOTED. I mean, seriously.. NOTED..

36.) Never performing in front of others. This may not be your true calling, but trying it at least once is an important life experience.
==> I did performing in front of people. YEY!

37.) Not being grateful sooner. Learn to say thanks and learn to mean it. So many parts of your life will improve if you do.
==> Alhamdulillah, I have my #grateful projects. And, noted. I'll try to be grateful everyday.

ha! I hope this LOOOOOONNNNGGGG post will make you busy for next one week!

March 09, 2014

Nirvana is..

"Nirvana is, your passion and your purposes as your job."
Sal Giambanco 
#100HappyDays, D2.

#100HappyDays Project

#100HappyDays Project.
Apaan sih nih?

Jadi, udah 20 hari gw ikut #100HappyDays project ini. Why? Because Why Not?
Ngga sih, intinya, sebagai orang yang nyinyir gw lebih gampang mengeluh dan ngomel. Ya, project ini jadi catetan buat gw bahwa setiap hari gw pasti menemukan hal-hal menyenangkan yang harus gw syukuri. Plus, ketika gw kesel dan sedih pun, catetan ini pasti bisa bikin gw senyum.

"Trus, kalo udah 100 hari, nyinyir lagi?" harusnya kalo berhasil 100 hari sih, udah jadi habit untuk bersyukur akan hal-hal kecil ya. but anyway, seengganya udah punya 100 catetan, kan? muahahaha.

Ngga ada kata terlambat untuk memulai hal baik, yuk ikutan!

*i'll write about some of them too.. lumayan lah ya, buat bahan ngeblog.. *

February 14, 2014

I'm in Abusive Relationship

I'm in abusive relationship with Jakarta.
Sewaktu-waktu dia sangat manis dan memanjakan. Disajikannya keramaian dan apa yang dibutuhkan, tapi nantinya gw diuji.

Perjalanan kantor ke rumah di hari libur sekolah itu, bisa ditempuh dalam waktu 20-30 menit. Kalo masa-masa cuti bersama, bisa 15 menit sampai di kantor untuk menempuh jarak 17 km dari Cijantung sampai Wijaya.  Tapi, libur sekolah itu kan masa yang jauh lebih pendek dibandingkan dengan masa aktif sekolah ya. Jadi, most of the time sih, gw harus menghabiskan 90 menit untuk 17 km.

Hebatnya Jakarta, setelah masa hujan dan banjir, jalanannya bisa berdanau dan bergelombang, yang kemudian membuat gw harus menempuh 2 jam bahkan lebih di jalan untuk 17 km itu. Dan, saat gw putus asa, bisa-bisanya dia bermanis-manis dengan mengijinkan gw pulang dengan waktu tempuh kurang dari 30 menit.

Dia akan melakukan hal-hal yang kejam dan menyakiti kita, saat kita 'tersadar', dia akan bersikan semanis madu *ciye* supaya kita luluh dan berpikir kalau dia selama ini khilaf.
Ini sih serius, Plis noted ya, readers. Jangan terperangkap. Go, escape! Kamu pantas dapat yang lebih baik.

Sayangnya, kalo gw sama Jakarta ini, lebih pelik.
Gw juga punya pilihan escape sih, makanya sekarang lagi cari tempat indekos. **DI SINI DRAMA DIMULAI** Orang mat rempong macam gw, nyari indekos. Harus deket jalan raya, ngga banjir, ngga lembab, kamar mandi dalem, ada parkir motor dan bisa masuk mobil, TRUS budgetnya harus seimbang dibandingin cost kalo naik mobil pulang pergi selama seminggu. *DIKUTUK JADI BATU*. Yang lebih drama sih, gw ga usaha untuk nyari, cuma nanya-nanya orang-orang di kantor. Mamam.

Escape kedua gw disponsori oleh Google Maps dan Waze. Belakangan jadi mencari-cari jalan alternatif. Beberapa kali terjebak. Tapi 3 hari ini udah nemu jalan yang lumayan stabil. Waktu tempuhnya beragam dari mulai 70 menit - 90 menit. Lumayan lah. Mari kita coba terus trayek yang ini.
Semoga ini bisa memperbaiki hubuungan kita ya Kar.. Karta.. Jakarta..